My practical jokes habitually went too far. That evening it hurt one of my three roommates, who was also one of my best friends. I remember instigating the wicked scheme to keep the door locked, while Shelby knocked, demanded, threatened and pleaded for us to open the door. My other roommates laughed uproariously while I kept prodding Shelby to try a different “secret code-phrase”. He knocked on the door of the neighboring room, they allowed him to climb into our balcony from their’s. But oh how clever we were, we locked the balcony side door to our room.
It was an inhuman hour and as I would later learn, he was exhausted. If that wasn’t reason enough to lay off the evil I was doing, there’s more; earilier in the week, I convinced Shelby to join me and another friend on a jog every morning at 5:00. For a few days we had remarkable success keeping that appointment. That evening he had determined to go to bed early so he could continue keeping it. Frustrated and infuriated at my insanity, he left to sleep on the hostel’s airy rooftop. But there, mosquitoes buzzed around baying for blood. We undid the locks when we realized he was seriously upset. He returned defeated by the mosquitoes and very disgusted with my foolish carousing.
The next morning, I woke up a few minutes before 5 and realized last night’s bearing on the morning’s appointment. Now I was supposed to be the one knocking, figuratively. I stood beside his bed gingerly, extending my hand to tap him awake but then pulling it back. Why did he have to help? I was the one afraid of stray dogs on the jogging trail. He would do very well to let me go. I turned around to wear my shoes, to face the bitter cold morning and the stray dogs by myself, when I heard him climb down from his bunk.
We jogged in complete silence. 45 minutes. 5k.
I was thorougly ashamed and felt an enormous weight of guilt and sadness. I dreaded talking things through, apologizing was a terrifying thought. It seemed easier to go on forever without talking. Many times through that jog, I tried to mouth an apology, but couldn’t produce a whisper, only large puffs of steam. My tounge felt dry, my throat hurt and the weight of what was happenning was nearly unbearable.
We were minutes away from our hostel. After many false attempts to utter a syllable, it came tumbling out. “Sorry about all that yesterday”, I blurted out.
“Ah, that’s all fine”, He waved dismissively.
And once again, we fell into easy, hilarious chatter almost as if nothing had ever happened!
The knot in my throat dissolved, the enormous weight over me vanished. Forgiven twice over, I could fly!
At the risk of being insensitive, I ask, could forgiving the perpetrators of 9/11 make sense? Could we break the cycle of hate and “ungrace”, as Philip Yancey calls it? Could grace – amazing, incredulous, scandalous grace be the answer to our Hurting? All of us feel the sense of justified rage at the sheer idiocy of those dastardly acts. The rallying cry of this nation since 9/11 has been “Never Forget”! But even justified anger breeds justified anger. Our “rhetoric of hate” as Delyse Steyn calls it, has only left us in fear, waiting for the next 9/11. What’s more, our anger is felt by the children walking the streets of Karachi, Kabul, and Kandahar both tangibly and intangibly. They know in their hearts that we dislike them for what they could be associated with. And that idea of that we hate them, will spawn hatred in them and the cycle of hate will turn vicious and continual.
Grace, pure, amazing, unbeliveable grace is what we need in our hearts, right now! We can break the chain of ungrace and begin a whole new revoloution, choosing to forgive and forget just like Shelby did. Ten years after 9/11, it isn’t too late to start.